决定你人格魅力的6个特质
Below, I've listed some of the traits I admire most in people. Although I could probably list a dozen characteristics, I thought I’d list those that seem to be the rarest or most difficult to find.
1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common. People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give. Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special. While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.
无私。忙碌的生活让很多人不愿意去花时间在他人身上或对他人的事感兴趣，无私者越来越少。人们可以通过聆听，交谈和耐心来展示自己的无私。
2. Tolerance: Those people who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals. All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies. After all, these differences make the world go round. Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness and in the health of our relationships.
宽容。宽容的人让我们感觉舒服，愿意成为朋友。每个人都是独特的，都有自己的特点。能够接受他人的人才是有人格魅力的人。
4. Sensitivity: So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us. Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected. Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.
细腻。很多时候，我们一味地忙着自己觉得重要的事情，而往往忽略了身边的人。细腻的人总是喜欢想事情，关爱身边的人，有一颗包容的心，让你有种被理解的感受。
5. Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find. In a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck (Bernie Madoff…can you hear me?), expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (balloon boy’s dad and any other reality TV mongers) and do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods), integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.
正直。如今的社会，到处充斥着为了金钱而做各种各样稀奇古怪的事，为了获得小利二曝光人家的隐私或私生活，在这种背景下，正直尤为重要。
6. Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time. Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits make others feel special too.
谦逊。无论他是否优秀，与众不同，谦逊的人会让你切身感受到他们的独特魅力。
